When I think about what it means to encourage my husband I think about the definition. An encourager is someone who inspires with courage, spirit, or confidence. Other words for encourage, according to dictionary.com are: embolden, hearten, reassure, urge, support, aide, and help.
I cannot image there is any woman who purposefully sets out to hinder, depress, or disparage her husband. No wife wants to be the reason her husband lacks courage, confidence, or hope. Yet those things are the opposite of encouragement and often they are the things our own husbands receive from us.
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How do I encourage my husband biblically?
In his book, What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men, Patrick Moreley says, “If I could make only one observation about men today, it would be that men are tired—mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually tired. Weary of life.” Moreley speaks to hundreds of men at conferences and the need for encouragement is expressed again and again.
If you are like me then learning that so many men are weary makes you feel sad. The Bible has called us, as wives, to be a helpmate to our husbands. Giving our husbands encouragement is one of the ways that we can help him. So what does it look like to encourage your husband?
First, I would suggest that you find out your husband’s love language. If you know the best way to communicate love to your husband then you will be better able to encourage him in the way he needs it most. This might look like giving him your undivided attention, or leaving little gifts for him to find.
Secondly, regardless of his love language I want to encourage you to tell your husband how much you appreciate him. Tell him that he is a good husband and why you believe that. Let him know how your appreciate of him has grown from your wedding ceremony to now. Do not wait until your husband is having a hard time before you start encouraging him.
Last, but in no way the least significant, pray for your husband. Pray for him every day. You can pray by yourself but you can also pray with him. Spending time together praying for one another and for your marriage is beautiful, intimate, and an incredible way to encourage your spouse.
Encouraging Scripture For Husbands
You can use these bible verses to pray for your husband, as notes that you share with him, or even as a way to send an uplifting text message. I also use them as a way to remind me the importance of encouraging my husband.
“with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:2-3
“Above all, maintain constant love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
“Dear friends, let us love one another, because love is from God, and everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:7-8
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that he who created them in the beginning made them male and female, and he also said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
“Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not arrogant, is not rude, is not self-seeking, is not irritable, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Another way to encourage and inspire your husband is by looking at your role as his wife. This free Bible study on the Proverbs 31 woman is an excellent place to start.
If you are a Christian woman there is a very good chance that you have read this passage of the Bible before. You probably think that you have heard all that there is to be said about this virtuous woman and all of her wonderful attributes.
The Proverbs 31 woman is not intended to be a to-do list or a long inventory of all our shortcomings as women, mothers, and wives. Rather, the Proverbs 31 woman, the virtuous woman of legend, is a fictitious character from whom we can draw inspiration.
"Who can find a wife of noble character? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with willing hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from far away. She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household and portions for her female servants. She evaluates a field and buys it; she plants a vineyard with her earnings. She draws on her strength and reveals that her arms are strong. She sees that her profits are good, and her lamp never goes out at night. She extends her hands to the spinning staff, and her hands hold the spindle. Her hands reach out to the poor, and she extends her hands to the needy. She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed. She makes her own bed coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known at the city gates, where he sits among the elders of the land. She makes and sells linen garments; she delivers belts to the merchants. Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come. Her mouth speaks wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also praises her: “Many women have done noble deeds, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. Give her the reward of her labor, and let her works praise her at the city gates."
Bible Verses To Encourage Your Husband
“For I know the plans I have for you”—this is the Lord’s declaration—“plans for your well-being, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11
“And if someone overpowers one person, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and don’t be bitter toward them.” Colossians 3:18-19
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a wife who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4
“Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
“What, then, are we to say about these things? If God is for us, who is against us?” Romans 8:31
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up as you are already doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Lord, you have heard the desire of the humble; you will strengthen their hearts. You will listen carefully,” Psalm 10:17
“but those who trust in the Lord will renew their strength; they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not become weary, they will walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31
Biblical Encouragement For Your Husband
“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:37-39
“And not only that, but we also boast in our afflictions, because we know that affliction produces endurance, endurance produces proven character, and proven character produces hope. This hope will not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Romans 5:3-5
“There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven: a time to give birth and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to uproot; a time to kill and a time to heal; a time to tear down and a time to build; a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance; a time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace and a time to avoid embracing; a time to search and a time to count as lost; a time to keep and a time to throw away; a time to tear and a time to sew; a time to be silent and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Encouragement From God’s Word
Rejoice in hope; be patient in affliction; be persistent in prayer.” Romans 12:12
“I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.” John 16:33
“Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never allow the righteous to be shaken.” Psalm 55:22
“Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” James 4:7-8
“Haven’t I commanded you: be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
Encouraging Scripture To Text Your Husband
“Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
“Whatever you do, do it from the heart, as something done for the Lord and not for people,” Colossians 3:23
“Let us not get tired of doing good, for we will reap at the proper time if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6:9
“A person’s heart plans his way, but the Lord determines his steps.” Proverbs 16:9
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding;” Proverbs 3:5
“But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity.” 2 Peter 3:18
The Word Of God For Husbands
“Consider it a great joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you experience various trials, because you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2-4
“Yet I will certainly bring health and healing to it and will indeed heal them. I will let them experience the abundance of true peace.”Jeremiah 33:6
“Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
“Dear friend, I pray that you are prospering in every way and are in good health, just as your whole life is going well.” 3 John 1:2
“The Lord is the one who will go before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or abandon you. Do not be afraid or discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8
More Encouraging Scripture For Husbands
“Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
“For whatever was written in the past was written for our instruction, so that we may have hope through endurance and through the encouragement from the Scriptures.” Romans 15:4
“Because of the Lord’s faithful love we do not perish, for his mercies never end. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness!” Lamentations 3:22-23
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; in all your ways know him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6